Who wants to be the best version of themselves?

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Hey all,

Switching  gears from adoption and infertility talk, not that its not on my mind 24/7 but a more pressing issue at hand is talking to you all about the excitement of finally taking the steps to be the best version of yourself!

I have spent the past 29 years of my life feeling the need to please everyone! A “people pleaser” was one of my main characteristics, you can be told its okay to just say “NO” but in my world that was easier said than done. I loved to make people happy and I still do but now I am okay saying ” I need a me day” or “Michael and I are taking an us day”. When you sit and come up with what makes you happy, or think how can I be the best version of myself, most likely at the top will be take care of your mind, body and spirit. With becoming a better you it may mean weeding people out of your life, it can happen naturally or purposely and either is okay.

Once you become in touch with your inner self and think ” who are the people I want in my circle” it becomes pretty clear who should be there and who should not. The word narcissistic has come up a lot lately a few times in a podcast I was listening to and also during a therapy session while talking about those in my life. Growing up with one was difficult and played a huge part of why my childhood was how it was and how I am today. During therapy discussions I learned I may have others close to me either full blown narcissistic or has character traits of one. There is no cure for this as it is a personality disorder however; therapy can help to cope the best they are able to. I bring this up because my eyes were opened to why I always felt a certain way, or maybe why I gravitated towards people such as the one I grew up with. I sat and realized “wow” I no longer need to put up with this, I am no longer a child; I am a grown woman who needs to not let her past define her. I no longer have to feel afraid to say “NO” with fear of is someone going to be mad at me, will this person turn on me, will I be judged etc.

It has taken me 29 years to get to this point, a lot of prayer and guidance. A supportive circle around me and a desire to be genuinely happy. Who else has gone through this or who else wants help to be the best you, you can be?! I am a work in progress and always will be but I am not where I was.

Smiles,

Colie 🙂

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Colie is one of the most important names to me because it was given to me by my nieces and nephews, Nicholle was to formal and they couldn't say aunt so Colie it became. I started this blog as a happily married woman in 2018, now in 2020 I will soon be divorced but my journey is only getting started. I share the most raw,honest, personal experiences with my readers, not only to reflect but also to reach those who may also be going through similar situations.

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4 thoughts on “Who wants to be the best version of themselves?”

  1. So important to take care of ourselves not only our physical bodies, as so many just naturally think of, but mentally to be strong and to be the best you you can be. It is a process & you will learn things about yourself that will help you grow, that may surprise you, make you sad, mad or put you in denial. We don’t always like to see what comes out while we go through our journey of self awareness & becoming a better version of ourselves. Keep going! Don’t let up & keep becoming happy & stronger. I’m so proud of you. Love you to eternity ❤️

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  2. Very relatable post. I had a habit to try to please everyone as well growing up. It’s taken many years to break that habit and there are days where I still catch myself trying to do so. Like you said, I still like to make others happy when I can but not to the point where I’m bending over backwards, jumping hoops and anxiety ridden to do so. Where it impacts me in a way thats not healthy. It’s so important that we take care of ourselves, both physically and mentally.

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