It has been a while, life just keeps happening and I am trying to keep up. In many of my posts I mention self care and what that means and how necessary it is to everybody; and I can’t stress enough how important it is to make sure your mental health is a priority as well. I have been going to therapy most of my life, from 7-15 years of age then again at 29-present; I did take a long break ( during the time in which I needed it most) but I am back now. There is something about just talking to someone, just getting it all out there with no judgement ( if they do judge you they don’t tell you), and receiving the tools necessary to become a better version of yourself.
I am so thankful to be where I am today, I didn’t know If I would make it or be okay; but I am. I choose to wake up each day with a smile, even after I snooze my alarm about 10x and moan and groan not wanting to move. It’s not all peaches and cream though, I have my days, those days when your just like really? WTF! I get in my thoughts but now as I have grown through this time period I can get myself out of these thoughts much quicker than before. Thoughts such as this, A year ago today I was doing a joint blog about adoption and a future I thought was planned out for me but it wasn’t & IT IS OKAY! I think that might be the first time I have said that out loud.
Surrounding yourself with people who are awesome and feed your soul is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Without “your people” it is rough, I don’t know where I’d be without them. They know who they are, the people who make me laugh,smile, are real with me even when I don’t want to hear what they have to say, those I can cry on, those I can vent to, those who spend their free time with me just because they want to.
One thing I’ve learned is you take the good with the bad, I’ve made a lot of decisions this past year some good some bad but nothing of regret. Regret is for the weak minded, don’t look at things in that way, look at them in the way of learning moments, things you can now grow from and move on. In present day right at this moment, I am happy; I posted something on Facebook this week, it was of myself (which I usually don’t post) but I said something to the effect of “This is a genuine smile…” that may sound silly but I know in my life beyond this past year I smiled because it was the right thing to do for the photo or the setting I was in but this , this smile, in this picture; was a pure genuine happy smile.
My mental health is my number one priority right now; because I know I am no use to anyone if I am not okay. Yes I have my medication which I take daily to help with my depression and anxiety and that only makes me a better person. Medication does not have to be your answer, but if it is embrace it, be thankful for those who created the concoction to help you! I’ll tell you what I am thankful for Carl Rogers for coming up with interpersonal therapy in the 1940’s and all those who decided to look into and help create what we have today as options for everyone.
I’ll continue to be an advocate for self care and mental health, and continue to share with you all this course I’m on.